Do you ever do something just because everyone else is doing it?
What I find most interesting is, those who are Christians, we are against looking like the world; doing what the world is doing. Yet, in Christian settings we can quickly start doing what everyone else is doing – just because everyone else is doing it – and find nothing wrong with that.
I know many people who attend church, who call themselves Christians, do things within the church only because everyone else is doing it. They’ll sign up for this or that just because someone else signed up for it. I know people who think they are special (approved) just because the church called and asked them to serve. There is nothing wrong with the church calling and asking people to serve. But there is something wrong when we serve and think we are special – just because the church called and asked. I was this person and I drove myself crazy doing any and everything for the church for their approval of me.
But what’s wrong with serving the church?
I’m not against serving in the church because we need to serve our church. The Bible tells us to serve our church.
Galatians 6:10 “Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers.”
But are you serving within a certain area in your church because God has called you to it?
Matthew 6:33 “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”
Now, don’t go fly off the deep end with this. I have seen people who “need to pray” about every little thing the church asks of them and to me, they’ve gone overboard. For example, this is a true story, one Sunday morning the ushers were in need of a replacement (that morning only) because the usual usher had a last-minute call-out so the leaders asked this person if they could step in that day. That person had to go “pray about it.”
Seriously, you wouldn’t go pray about helping your neighbor get out of his or her vehicle with their hands full. You’d likely go and help them, correct? These types of situations are no different. We don’t need to be overly spiritual about everything. Just say, no I’m unable to help this morning but thank you for asking.
But when you do serve in a committed area within the church, why are you doing it? Has God called you to it or are you doing it to make yourself feel special and approved by the church? To build up a resume? Or because everyone else is doing it?
I am not preaching. I have done this.
They asked me!
You Really Like Me!
In 2010 I was asked to serve in women’s ministry and everything about my demeanor changed. I went from walking around that church like a lowly schoolgirl to instantly thinking I was special – because the church asked me to be a leader! The church chose me! I am now special.
Never mind how I treat my husband, my children, and people around me…I am special because the church chose me! I am special because I am a leader, deacon, director of a church ministry!
Hagar did something similar. She was a meek and unassuming slave girl until she became pregnant with Abram’s child. His wife Sarai was not becoming pregnant. Hagar became arrogant when she knew she was pregnant. Hagar used that situation to give herself value. The same way you allow the church to give you value.
Genesis 16:4 “He slept with Hagar, and she conceived. When she knew she was pregnant, she began to despise her mistress.”
The Church Didn’t Choose You
I hope this is instantly starting to set in. We become just like the world when we behave this way. The Bible tells us not to seek the approval of this world.
Galatians 1:10 “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”
Don’t be fooled…this includes the church.
We boast that we don’t seek the approval of this world – while we seek the approval of our church. You believe you’re special because your church chose you rather than already knowing and believing God chose you before your church ever existed.
Ephesians 1:4 “For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love.”
I don’t want to discourage you from serving your church, friend. The church is wonderful and needs faithful servants. But your church cannot validate you. I have seen wonderful godly people serving in areas within the church where it is obvious they were called by God to serve. You can see the humbleness in their heart. You can see how they are impacting those they serve. And then I can see the difference in people who are serving because the church asked them and it’s about them not the people they are serving. Serving in the church gives them value.
We must be careful not to allow our church to become an idol in our lives which replaces God.
Exodus 20:3 “You shall have no other gods before me.”
God validates you, friend. Love your church. Serve your church. But check your heart to ensure you are serving because it’s where God called you to impact lives – for Him.
~Saleama A. Ruvalcaba, MATS
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