Here’s Why Your Social Media Friends Don’t Support You…

Hold onto your hat!

Luke 16:10 “If you are faithful in little things, you will be faithful in large ones. But if you are dishonest in little things, you won’t be honest with greater responsibilities.”

Do you ever wonder why your social media friends don’t support your endeavors? It’s strange right? They’re your friends. You have a good cause. Yet, for the most part they do not support you.

Why is that?

There’s actually a pretty easy answer and not complicated at all.

Your social media friends are not actually your friends. I know that’s hard to believe – but someone had to tell you.


Social media has done a great job selling friendship and we have done a great job falling for it. Having a friend in time of need is great so we expect friends to be here for us. We are baffled when our social media “friends” don’t show support.

Now, you might have a few people within your contacts on social media who actually are your friends and they do support you- but come on – let’s keep it real – you probably don’t even know more than half of your social media contacts. You likely have never even had a real conversation with most of them. You might see them regularly at church and other social settings, but how often do you talk to them, pray for them, share a meal with them? Seriously, and you expect them to support you, and vice versa?

Let it Scroll…

For the most part everyone is on social media for the same reason…to see what’s going on and/or to advertise their own endeavors. The people within your contacts are not on a journey for the same cause you’re on. They are not your customers. They are people scrolling on their phones and they might, and this is a strong might – “Like” something you share – and that’s if they even see it since social media is so flooded anyway.

I am not on a quest to get people off social media. The truth is social media can serve a positive purpose if used the right way, but we must be wise. Social media is only a small way to share your message for God. Social media is not the end all and be all for who God wants you to be. Your social media friends do not dictate the path you’re on. You are not on the right or wrong path based on their support or non support.

How often do you get off your phone from scrolling and posting and talk to people? How often do you share your message while at the store, on a walk, at work? When you’re getting your car repaired do you talk to people or look at your phone? When you’re at the checkout counter at the store do you strike up a conversation with the person serving you? Do you invite your neighbors to dinner to get to know them? Maybe they have the same passion and cause you have. How often do you pray and put your life in the hands of God and allow Him to guide your steps?

Me and my husband own two nonprofits in Memphis, TN. While we get a lot of families to join our program from social media I am always amazed when we get new families in our program who are not on social media at all. They join our program from word of mouth.

Consider This…

You see friend, back in the day, Charles Spurgeon didn’t rely on social media. Neither did A.W. Tozer, Leonard Ravenhill, Aimee Semple McPherson, Diedrich Bonhoeffer, Martin Luther King Jr., Frederick Douglass, the apostle Paul, Jesus Christ.

Social media has become a crutch in our lives. We live by it. We believe there’s no other way. We get mad at our “friends” when they don’t support us. We don’t rely on God by allowing Him to guide our steps – for His purpose.

Continue to use social media in a positive way that brings honor to God. But don’t rely on it as your sole outlet. God is bigger than social media. He can do great things through you and in your life for His Kingdom when you put your life in His hands. He will give you wisdom to reach whoever He wants you to reach. Start small by being faithful and consistent. Even if you reach one person for God today, God might allow that one person to reach others for His Kingdom – and therefore friend, your faithfulness could reach beyond your expectations. Let social media be only a very small part in the BIG picture for God! You have a true friend in Jesus Christ. He “Likes” you and with Him your purpose for His Kingdom will grow.

Luke 16:10 “If you are faithful in little things, you will be faithful in large ones. But if you are dishonest in little things, you won’t be honest with greater responsibilities.”

~Saleama A. Ruvalcaba, MATS

Do you know Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior? If not email me today and I will pray with you.

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